Sunday, 14. February 2010 5:30
So, while in Goa I realized something. I realized that I am usually a very anti-social person. If I don’t know you, I won’t go and talk to you. I rarely engage in a conversation with a stranger . I almost never accept any kind of contact with random people. I just do my thing; I go from A to Z without thinking about what’s in between. I walk fast, and I don’t interact with the world around me.
Since the beginning of this trip, things didn’t change. I was still the same guy, doing its thing. Not really looking at everything and everyone around me. I always needed to have a plan, a destination…I also never jumped into random situations if I didn’t know the outcome in advance… And I realized that I was very dependent of my friends around me. Maybe it’s a lack of self confidence, self esteem…Im not sure…but that had to change…Because I felt like I was missing a lot…if not everything…..
So I said fuck it..let just do whatever, go wherever, enjoy whatever happen, live for now, and don’t worry about anything…So I left Goa, by myself, booked a ticket to Bangalore, Which is the biggest city in the state of Karnataka. I knew It was probably going to be very chaotic, messed up, and probably not easy for me to get there…alone…but I had to do it… I had to do the exact opposite of what usually do, and be the opposite of what I usually am: A very closed person…
So I took a ride down to the bus station in Anjuna, got in the bus. I didn’t know, but in the sleeper bus, 2 person share a small bed…now I understand why the lady gave me a weird look at the ticket counter when I said I was booking only for 1 person…I had to share my small bed with a complete stranger…I got in the bus, and I saw my bedmate, an Indian guy who gave me a weird look when I said this was also my bed…I usually would just have put my stuff under it, put on my headphones, and ignored him…But instead, I gave him a big smile and said hello!. His look changed, he suddently became very friendly and nice to me. We ended up talking for a while, then he offered me snacks, which I usually would have refused, because you hear stories about people being drugged and mugged while travelling alone…but I said fuck it again, I want some, I am hungry…I am sick of saying no to everything around me…
The bus ride was alright, very slow and bumpy…At some point I got waken up by a big noise, and then the bus stopped very quickly. Everyone though we just had an accident, So I looked outside. I see glasses everywhere on the road, and I see the bus driver and his friends running in the wood with sticks… I found out that some guy though it would be funny to throw a rock at a bus, which ended up breaking the whole windshield….Luckily for the guy, they didn’t catch him, because he would have probably got the beating of his life…
We ended up waiting in the middle of nowhere, all confused… for another bus to pick us up..but the bus never came…So they just removed the broken glasses from inside the bus..and drove the rest of the journey (about 10 hours)without a windshield…So I got to Bangalore the next morning, As soon I as I got out of the bus, I started getting harassed by rickshaw drivers and touts…So I grew some balls, and I politely told them to fuck off, that I didn’t need a room, and that I knew where I was going… all of a sudden, they left me alone! Awesome! So I took some time to relax on a bench, after the 14 hour bus ride, had a cigarettes. Then jumped in a rickshaw…When I told the rickshaw driver which hotel I was going to, he told me that this hotel was very expensive, and full, without room available…and that he was going to bring me to a cheap place…(what is he? A travel agent? I knew this scam, it is very common, they bring you to a specific hotel, which they get a commission from when they bring customers… )Then I realized he was not bringing me where I wanted (thanks to the Bangalore map I printed before coming here) I told him that this was not the way to my hotel, and started arguing with him, the guy was very aggressive and persuasive. Luckily for me, I still had those balls I grew at the bus stop, so I raised my voice and told him where to drop me…Which he did…And as I though, the hotel was cheap with plenty of room available…
So I got in the room, relaxed a bit, then went for lunch…and to explore a little bit of my neighborhood…Bangalore is huge, noisy, chaotic and dirty…Exactly what I wanted…Great…So I walked around, I went into some shady streets that I would have usually avoided, ended up in a nice tea stall, had a chai while chatting with a local. Which ended up in a very nice conversation. And That was it for that day, being really tired after the bus ride, I went to bed early…
The next morning, I got a message from Marylin saying she is coming here tomorrow…I was supposed to go visit some temples, and check out the city market, but I decided to wait until she is here. So I don’t have to do it twice…I decided to just walk around, and just check out the city, to get a real feel of the place.
So I went to get breakfast, I was finally able to get a Masala Dosa, Bengalore is famous for its Dosa. It consist of a pancake-like thing, folded and filled with potato, onions, and spices. It come with a small pot of spicy chutney, and a small pot of yogurt-like thing (which is used to cool off the extreme spicy taste of the chutney) It it very good! And cheap! The whole breakfast did cost me 27rupees (about 0.50$) After that I started walking around, without a real destination, I soon realized that Bangalore is very overcrowded. You might think that Mont-royal street on a nice sunny sunday is crowded, think again. This is nothing compared to the chaos here… But I think I am starting to get used to that chaos. I didn’t feel freaked out, neither uncomfortable. It felt right. Usually I would have just walked fast, missing everything around, looking down at the sidewalk…checking the interesting stuff quickly. But I decided to take my time, because, whats the hurry?
At some point I walked by a primary school, and I really wished I could check it out. Because the kids in india are beautiful. They really are the gems of this country… But I continued walking…thinking that it was not my place, that I was probably not allowed. After a few block, I felt ashamed that I didn’t have the balls to just get in there, and really do what I wanted. This is the feeling that I never wanted to feel again…This is the part that I wanted to change by coming here by myself…again I felt like I was missing something…
So I said fuck it…what do I have to lose? So I turned around, walked back to the school, and just got right inside…As soon as I got in, I was greeted by a friendly gentleman, who told me to take a seat upstairs and wait a few minutes. He came back a few minutes later, he didn’t ask me what I was doing there, he never asked me why I got inside the school, or what I wanted….Instead, he asked me if I was hungry (wtf?).
At this point I wasn’t really sure what was going on. I wasn’t really hungry, but I still said yes to the invitation. Apparently it was lunch time at school, So he was inviting me for lunch! He came back a few minutes later with a nice plate of rice and a few other things I had never seen. And also a nice cup of masala chai. We sat down in a classroom, and had lunch together. The guy was very nice. He was talking to me like if I was a brother. He was very happy to meet me.
After lunch he gave me a tour of the school, showed me everything, explaining me how things worked. There was not much student today, since it’s a holiday. But a part of their students live in the school, either because their home is far, or because they have no home at all…At some point I walked in a room full of kids. The kids are always a little shy with foreigners, but as soon as you give them a big smile, and tell them the official greeting “Namaste!” they just smile and jump right at you, all interested in knowing you! It’s a very warm feeling that I cannot really describe. So I spent some time with them, mostly shaking their hands and sharing names, telling them where I was from. And also the usual photo session! Kids love to have their pictures taken. You take a picture, and then they just jump right at the camera to check it. It’s pretty funny!
When we were done with everything, I decided to tell them that I was interested in giving the school a donation. They never asked me for money, or anything. They never even told me I could donate to them…So I went into the office, filled up some donation form. And gave them 1000rupees, It is not a lot for me, it’s about 22CAN$. But it can put a kid through school for a year…
When I got out, I was feeling great! Not because I just gave money to help a kid. But because I was able to go through my original fear of whatever…Went in the school, and ended up having an amazing time, and meeting beautiful people…
This is the kind of things I came up for…
This is probably the kind of things I have been missing for a long time…
and this is the kind of things I hope I never miss again…
Namaste